Are you having one of those momemts or days?
Is it all too much? Are you having writer’s block (some may argue that there is no such thing)?
Are you having problems staying focused?
Is your ‘TO DO’ list growing out of control? (You can’t remember writing all this!)
Are you running out of time for you due to family and work commitments? When am I going to find time to write? Aaagghh! Bloody soccer practice again!
Have you lost confidence in your ability? I’m a writer? Who am I kidding? I can’t even write out a shopping list. Who’ll want to read this, it sucks!
Well, don’t despair, most of us have those days. In my readings in improving life and the life around you, I have come across some exercises to help de-stress, and boost confidence. So I have adapted the following two exercises to suit the mood of the moment.
Now – keep an open mind. You might feel silly doing them, but believe me, they do work. Have fun with them, but I do recommend that you find time when you are alone. Not that you should worry about what others think, but having others around could make you feel a little restrained. And yes, your family members may want to commit you to a psychiatric institution.
Exercise No. 1 – For when you are feeling frustrated.
YOU WILL NEED:
- Your voice
- Preferably an open space, or place in your house where the neighbours won’t think you are being attacked.
If you are at home and have house pets, such as cats, it is probably best to lock yourself in another room so they don’t think you have totally lost it.
I lock myself in the back room so our nearly 18 year old cat doesn’t suffer a heart attack, and our nine month old kittens don’t wish they were adopted by another family.
1. Now, find a spot where you feel confortable.
2. Settle yourself down comfortably. Don’t lie down as you may want to just curl up and toss some zzzzzzs around.
3. Take a deep breath and then breathe out slowly.
4. Do this three times to clear your lungs.
5. Now take another deep breath and this time –
Feel better? Of course you do. Just let it out. Watch the frustration leave your body. Banish it forever. Or at least for a while. But don’t throw things. Broken things need replacing. Replacing things means spending money. More frustration.
Also, I wouldn’t recommend doing this sitting in a lotus position at the top of a hill. In your new-found euphoric state, you may topple over. This short lived sense of letting go of frustration will be quickly superseded by fear, lack of control, and intense soreness if you get to live.
Exercise 2. When you are lacking confidence in yourself.
YOU WILL NEED
- A bell, rattle (a child’s rattle will do), set of maracas, a tamborine or similar
- A piece of exciting, stimulating music – salsa does it for me.
- Your voice
Best carried out when you are alone and where you won’t disturb anyone in your household.
Choose a short affirmation that expresses your situation.
I am a writer
I have the confidence to do anything
This exercise can really apply to anything in your life, so choose an affirmation that is applicable.
I am a good driver
1. Now, play your music and get in the moment. Feel it uplifting your mood.
2. Pick up your bell, rattle, maracas or similar and DANCE And, as loudly as you can, declare your affirmation at least three times. More is good (up to nine times is probably sufficient). Lose your inhibitions and dance around the room, or the whole house. As long as you don’t bump into anything – that will quickly defeat the purpose, if you are trying to get confidence whilst cursing the damn door. Otherwise, repeat Exercise 1.
3. When the music is finished make a pact with yourself to do three different things in the week which testifies your courage, your new-found confidence.
Send off that manuscript
Let your writers’ group listen to a chapter
Believe you are a writer. Refer to yourself as a writer
Now go! Face the world.